
Given the fact that the family has historically been, and remains today, an institution that is perceived to be a vital part of society at large, it should not be surprising that many individuals are interested in the current status of families. Scholars who have studied the family are still debating whether or not the family as an institution is declining or simply changing (Coontz, 1992; Popenoe, 1993). Personally, I find that the sharp distinction between ‘change’ and ‘decline’ unnecessary. If an institution is declining, is it not changing? I posit that the family is changing by declining, namely in its roles and responsibilities concerning socialization of children. Further, I would argue that this decline in family function is not alarming or problematic and that it does not reflect a change in our culture’s value of familism. Instead, the changes brought on by the decline are positive, and the shift in power from the family to other institutions may be good for children, whose wellbeing is used quite often used as a marker of the state of the family. Indeed, I will argue that families are still strong. In order to see how the declines mentioned by Popenoe (1993) are not alarming or negative, it is necessary to focus, ultimately, on outcomes for children. First, I will address how the changes in number of children born and the rising rates of marital dissolution are not indicative of family decline per se, and may be beneficial to the family unit. And finally, I will attempt to show that the shift in power from families to other institutions in the socialization of children was a necessary shift and does not undermine the institution of families.
In order to forward his argument that the family is experiencing dramatic decline, Popenoe (1993) points out that families are having less children. I would argue that the decline in the number of children is not a reflection of a decline in the family as an institution. Instead, I would argue that the decline in the number of children is, in some ways, strengthening families’ ability to provide for the few children they do have. I feel that one of the reasons women are having fewer children is due to an increase in female labor force participation. Having to work and focus on careers could potentially force women to delay having children and have less children once they decide to reproduce. Increased female labor force participation is a positive change and allows families to provide more for their children. Consider for example data from the 2000 census which points out that the number of children in poverty fell from the 1990s till 2000. This fall in poverty is linked to the increased number of two income families in which mothers are working and contributing to income (O’Hare, 2000). If one is to use child wellbeing as an indicator of family strength, then one cannot deny that the decrease in the number of children is not a sign of a weakening family, and, instead strengthens the family in its ability to provide financial care to children.
Instead of linking the decline in number of children in families to female labor force participation, Popenoe (1993) claims that the decline is due to an “unprecedented decrease in positive feelings toward parenthood and motherhood” (Popenoe, 1993, p. 530). To support this claim, data is presented which shows that adults who felt that parenthood could fulfill major values they possessed fell from 58% to 44% between the years 1957 and 1976. Further, Popenoe (1993) presents data fromt a poll conducted and reported by the New York Times. In this poll, it was found that a lower number of women in 1983 than in 1970 reported motherhood and raising a family as the top things that they felt contributed to the enjoyment of being a woman. These drops, though significant, do not, as Popenoe argues, reflect the rise of negative views on parenting. Instead, I assert that this data merely shows that women are finding that there are more things in life that mark them as a woman. Their careers, their friends and their leisure activities can be valued very highly. This shift in value is not so much a marker of negative attitudes toward motherhood and is more indicative of more options for women rather than just staying in the home.
In terms of marital dissolution, it has been argued that the rising divorce rates place children in an unstable environment with adults moving in and out of their lives (Popenoe, 1993). Indeed, research on child development has supported the idea that a lack of stability and single-parenthood can have adverse effects on the child (Evans, 2003). Though this is the case, I would like to point out, firstly, that families in which married individuals feel that they are obligated to stay together for the child’s sake may be unhealthy environments, especially if the marriage becomes characterized by fights and arguments. Secondly, as noted by Coontz (1992), though single-parenthood can occur following a divorce, 70% of women and men who have experienced divorce will eventually marry again. Again, if we assess the strength of the family in terms of child wellbeing, children who are in families where there are marital tensions may suffer from significant stressors and may actually benefit from divorce. Further, the high rate of remarrying eliminates the problems facing a single-parent in terms of raising children.
Though I believe that family decline cannot be assessed from the falling number of children born and the rising rates of marriage dissolution, I do believe that the family is declining in its role of socializing children. However, I do not believe that this is a reflection of a shift in the importance our culture places on families’ role to socialize children. Instead, I feel that the family decline in socializing children is normative, “a sign of the times,” so to speak, and does not pose significant challenges. Children today are exposed to many cultural influences not present in the traditional family. The emergence of new technologies like online networking sites and cell phones allows children to increase the time spent with friends and members outside the family. Consequently, the family is not the only institution socializing the child. Rather, friends and peers are contributing to child development. Further, public schools, an institution that none would argue is inherently detrimental to child development, has taken over many of the socialization roles of the traditional families. I argue that the transition of the child socializing role was a result of increased access to peers and the increasing importance of schools. Yes, the family has declined in this role. However, it is not negative. I am not arguing that families have no influence on the socialization of their children (after all, a great deal of socialization, i.e. gender norms, is completed before a child is old enough to go to school). The fact that peers and schools socialize children as well is more of the family sharing roles, not losing them.
In sum, the American family is changing in that it is experiencing decline. However, as we have seen, apparent indicators of family decline such as lower number of children born and rising divorce rates are misleading as they do not necessarily mark a family as weak or broken. The family is declining in that it is no longer largely responsible for the socialization of children. This decline, however, can be seen as normative and does not bring with it negative consequences for the institution of the family. If we are to measure family decline by the wellbeing of children, we are forced to note that the family has declined in its socialization roles, but still remains a strong and valued part of society.
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